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Sociologists have explored and investigated the concept of middle-aged thriving and have asked the question: What does it mean to be well and, more pointedly, be well mentally (Ryff & Keyes, 1995). Criteria and points of reference for defining well-being are, by extension, measures of positive life functioning such as accepting oneself, environment of control, favorable relationships, living a goal-oriented life coupled with self-improvement and self-determination (Ryff & Keyes, 1995). Suppose the criteria mentioned earlier, such as well-being, are operationalized or realized in one's life. Would indicators such as a spirit of good cheer, peace of mind, and depression be mediated?

In their thirty-year-old study, Ryff & Keyes (1995) highlight that their research reveals strong correlations between mediating happy feelings, life satisfaction, and symptoms of depression, particularly in relation to self-acceptance and environmental control. As for the other domains, such as healthy relationships, having a purpose in life, developing oneself over the continuum of life, and being independent, these are poorly correlated with mediating a person's happiness, satisfaction with life, and depressed mood. In other words, from their study, accepting one situation in life and trying to the extent that one can exercise some form of control over the world around them correlates to positive life functioning with behaviors reflecting a joyful spirit, being contented with life, and improved mood, however it is essential to acknowledge what Ryff & Keyes (1995), concluded: that there is more to getting on with life and that being well or psychologically healthy than the pursuit of happiness and being fullfilled. Of note and to the credit of their study, one domain of well-being that was not investigated, at least in this research, was spirituality.

G.K. Chesterton wrote a biography to defend the works of Robert Louis Stevenson, best known for his novel Treasure Island. Chesterton notes that Stevenson exemplified a character who, despite living with debilitating childhood illnesses, grew up with those challenges and faced life's adversity. Consider an excerpt from his work.

Chesterton states in his 1906 publication about R. L. Stevenson's character, "Stevenson's great ethical and philosophical value lies in the fact that he realised this great paradox that life becomes more fascinating the darker it grows, that life is worth living only so far as it is difficult to live" (Chesterton & Nicoll, 1906, p. 15). How did R. L. Stevenson believe that when life becomes complicated and overwhelming, it is precisely then that it becomes truly fascinating? 

This perspective presents a thought-provoking and philosophical approach to living even today, and applies to all of humanity. Not many will argue that parents, teachers, and coaches, who have many irons in the fire, face a myriad of challenges. Still, with an approach of living with acceptance and a whole-hearted intent to practice an environment of control to the best of one's ability, most people could achieve the feeling that life is worth living, as R. L. Stevenson demonstrated.

We can also gain insight by contemplating the ancient writings found in the Old Testament texts, particularly in the book of Ecclesiastes, and investigating the spiritual component of life. The great teacher emphasizes in chapter seven in the fourtenth verse, contemplative ideas about good circumstances and less fortunate ones, discussing the fact that God has set things in motion in a persons life such that one can not determine his future and that when days are joyful be glad, and when days are cumbersome consider that God has brought this for some devine reason (The Holy Bible, New International Version, 1999, Ec. 7: 14).

References:

Chesterton, G. K., & Nicoll, W. R. (1906). The characteristics of Robert Louis Stevenson. James Pott & Co. Internet Archive. https://archive.org/details/robertlouissteve00chesrich/page/4/mode/2up?view=theater

Ryff, C. D., & Keyes, C. L. (1995). The structure of psychological well-being revisited. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 69(4), 719–727. https://doi.org/10.1037//0022-3514.69.4.719

The Holy Bible: New International Version. (1999). Cornerstone Bible Publishers. (original work published 1973)